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Bruce, Caroline

Hey, How'd That Happen?: LJ Idol, Week 9

You know those things people say to you all the time when you're down,
those "encouraging" sayings, "wise" proverbs, and assorted garbage that
just makes you shake your head and say, "Yeah, right, you really don't
understand but I'll shut up just to keep the peace?" Well doesn't it
just take the biscuit when these gems happen to actually be right and
you have to eat your disdain?

Here's a classic. I always loved this one. "Oh stop looking for a woman,
Bruce, and when you least expect it, it'll just happen." Yeah, sure.
Whatever. Maybe in a movie, maybe in a book, maybe to someone else, but
to me? No, not a chance.

So there I was, last August, resigning myself to remaining single for
life. I mean, it only made sense, right? I'd botched every previous
attempt, so it was only fitting that I detect a pattern, resign myself,
and enjoy that life of eternal singleness which happily-married people
were always trying to tell me wasn't really so bad. Well, if it wasn't
so bad, why did they get married, and why were they so happy, right?

But it was finally starting to happen! I was enjoying my singleness, I
was reveling in it. I wasn't hoping, I wasn't looking. Translation:
phase one of that annoying proverb had been achieved. Do I hear phase
two, anyone?

On August 5, I began talking to kittytech, henceforth
refered to as Caroline (for that is her name, you see). Oh this is
great, I thought, and even said as much to my roommate, here's a girl
whom I absolutely love talking to, and there's nothing between us and no
pressure. We're pals, nothing more, and isn't that just wonderful?

That ignorant bliss lasted for about a week. Pretty much exactly a
week, really. Because by August 12, I knew I was in love. I hadn't
wanted it, I hadn't asked for it ... I'd asked for the opposite ... But
it's what I got. And, totally unexpectedly, she felt the same way I did.
And, wonderfully, we still do.

The unexpected can bring terrible pain, and it can bring unspeakable
joy. In this case, I'm so glad to say, the unexpected has brought me
unspeakable joy.
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You're right. I do like this entry. Somehow I always like to hear about myself. GRIN!!!!!
Don't we all? GRIN
This can't take but an awwwwwwwwwww...

I've personally not resigned myself to anything, BUT I am just laying back and letting life hit me as it comes. :)

What else can one do?
I love this mentality. Mostly because it's been mine for as long as I can remember.
It's so true though - stop looking and you'll find what you seek!
I am the same, well just let life take over, and see what comes to me. I am single, and not really into guys -- yet LOL.

Great entry.
The thing is, if you stop looking in an effort to find, you are still sort of looking, so the cosmic mojo that makes the proverb work won't kick in.

So, maybe it only worked for you because you really, honestly, did give up the chase.

Theno
It's also true that you always find what you're looking for in the last place that you look... because of course, once you find it, you stop looking! Congrats!
Aww! You two are too sweet! I'm glad you found each other just when you were meant to. *wink*
I would say that eating the disdain on this gem wasn't too hard on you! Great entry.
:o)
Very sweet story! I enjoyed this a lot.
What a sweet entry! I love hearing about people falling in love.
Heh, I found all three of my Loves when I wasn't looking for anything. :)

Great post.
Having been there from the beginning, there isn't much more I can say! hahahahhaha
Very nicely done... your joy comes through... great job!
Very, very nice. A nice way to start this thread of unpreparedness.
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