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Bruce, Caroline

Hey, How'd That Happen?: LJ Idol, Week 9

You know those things people say to you all the time when you're down,
those "encouraging" sayings, "wise" proverbs, and assorted garbage that
just makes you shake your head and say, "Yeah, right, you really don't
understand but I'll shut up just to keep the peace?" Well doesn't it
just take the biscuit when these gems happen to actually be right and
you have to eat your disdain?

Here's a classic. I always loved this one. "Oh stop looking for a woman,
Bruce, and when you least expect it, it'll just happen." Yeah, sure.
Whatever. Maybe in a movie, maybe in a book, maybe to someone else, but
to me? No, not a chance.

So there I was, last August, resigning myself to remaining single for
life. I mean, it only made sense, right? I'd botched every previous
attempt, so it was only fitting that I detect a pattern, resign myself,
and enjoy that life of eternal singleness which happily-married people
were always trying to tell me wasn't really so bad. Well, if it wasn't
so bad, why did they get married, and why were they so happy, right?

But it was finally starting to happen! I was enjoying my singleness, I
was reveling in it. I wasn't hoping, I wasn't looking. Translation:
phase one of that annoying proverb had been achieved. Do I hear phase
two, anyone?

On August 5, I began talking to kittytech, henceforth
refered to as Caroline (for that is her name, you see). Oh this is
great, I thought, and even said as much to my roommate, here's a girl
whom I absolutely love talking to, and there's nothing between us and no
pressure. We're pals, nothing more, and isn't that just wonderful?

That ignorant bliss lasted for about a week. Pretty much exactly a
week, really. Because by August 12, I knew I was in love. I hadn't
wanted it, I hadn't asked for it ... I'd asked for the opposite ... But
it's what I got. And, totally unexpectedly, she felt the same way I did.
And, wonderfully, we still do.

The unexpected can bring terrible pain, and it can bring unspeakable
joy. In this case, I'm so glad to say, the unexpected has brought me
unspeakable joy.


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I wish my single friends would believe me when I tell them that, if they just relax and stop trying so hard, they'll find someone. Good for you!
Great entry and warms the heart:)
Nicely written! Sometimes the things we want stay out of reach simply because we're looking too hard. I'm glad it worked out for you.
Very nice story! Isn't unexpected love great? :)
What a sweet story! Very good entry!
I think it's because when guys are trying they end up trying too hard.

I liked your entry.
:) This is sweet. I enjoyed it -- love the last two paragraphs especially. Thanks.
I got the story back then from the other side, isn't it wonderful =D
Congratulations!!!!! I love stories on how people in love get together.
Very sweet. :-)

I broke up with my college boyfriend in October of 2003. I was actually planning on going to Italy to study for two years for grad school, resigned to just be single for a while. I wasn't looking, didn't want a relationship. I was exhausted from the one I'd just had.

And then...my good friend Ben calls and wants to do dinner. And then we did a movie. And then fast forward a year and half and I'm standing at an alter.

It always happens when you least expect it. So happy to hear it happened to you, too. *grin*

Nice entry!

I found a relationship that turned into what will soon be 12 years of married happiness when I was absolutely NOT looking for a relationship, especially with a man named John as the jerk I had dated last had also been named John. By the time we had finished our first conversation I knew I wanted to marry him, this man unfortunately also named John. I've never had such certainty about anything in my entire life. It makes me really happy to hear that it happened for you, too, and it was great hearing your love story and your joy. Thanks for sharing it.
Nice entry.
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