Others are allowed to get angry at me at their leisure. If I dare defend myself, it will be pointed out to me that I misunderstood, misinterpreted, or was selfish, and my self-defense is invalid. If I dare to get angry with anyone else, heaven for bid, then I am instantly a bad person for that anger; the resulting self-defense on the part of the other person will invariably reveal that my anger was not founded and I was way out of line for feeling the way I did. This, you see, is how the world is set up. I am not sure why it is so consistently so, however, the fact that it is seems clear enough to me.